Today, I debate washing the comforter cover which still has the scent and essence of Mandu. Steve and I agree it is too soon. We need that little piece of him still here. Each time I come into this room, I expect to see him sleeping in the chair. I place some books there, so his pillow is not empty. I find some comfort in knowing the space is filled. Roots and Wings, poetry of Spain, dealing with Duende, rests there.
This is what Garcia Lorca has to say about Duende. I copy it from Wikipedia.
The duende is a rarely explained concept in Spanish art, particularly flamenco, having to do with emotion, expression and authenticity. In Spanish, the primary definition of duende refers to a fairy- or goblin-like mythological character. While its nature varies throughout Spain and Latin America, in many cases its closest equivalent known to the Anglophone world is the Irish leprechaun.
- "So, then, the duende is a force not a labour, a struggle not a thought. I heard an old maestro of the guitar say: ‘The duende is not in the throat: the duende surges up, inside, from the soles of the feet.’ Meaning, it’s not a question of skill, but of a style that’s truly alive: meaning, it’s in the veins: meaning, it’s of the most ancient culture of immediate creation.
- "This ‘mysterious force that everyone feels and no philosopher has explained’ is, in sum, the spirit of the earth, the same duende that scorched Nietzsche’s heart as he searched for its outer form on the Rialto Bridge and in Bizet’s music, without finding it---"
- "The arrival of the duende presupposes a radical change to all the old kinds of form, brings totally unknown and fresh sensations, with the qualities of a newly created rose, miraculous, generating an almost religious enthusiasm."
- "All the arts are capable of duende, but where it naturally creates most space, as in music, dance and spoken poetry, the living flesh is needed to interpret them, since they have forms that are born and die, perpetually, and raise their contours above the precise present." 
- — García Lorca, Theory and Play of the Duende