Upon reflection -

I re-read Vicki's words and, am again struck at the excellence of what she says, and how she says it.   She was playing devil's advocate and that is what we need.   Without it, we have rigidity and prejudice, and those who struggle with the choices of another.  I have asked her permission to place them here, and I am hoping she says yes.  She is an incredibly strong and tender intellect, and a powerful writer, and I would like to see her words here as a counter-point, or, perhaps, augmentation is a better word,  to mine.